Father’s Day is this weekend and it’s tough. Every holiday is tough when you lose a parent, but especially the ones meant just for them.
Last year, I thought Father’s Day was rough, but my dad was still here. Dad had been admitted to the hospital on the second day of our honeymoon and we had no idea until the last night of our cruise when we were back in range of U.S. cell towers. He was still in the hospital on Father’s Day, but I got to call him and talk with him. This year I can’t.
A couple of weeks ago, I ventured into the card aisle on a mission for birthday and sympathy cards during lunch. I like to think that I’m pretty good at shopping for sympathy cards, I know what words brought the tiniest bit of comfort to me and I know that glitter is never appropriate (it’s like fake cheer). While walking through the aisles of cards, I ended up in the Father’s Day section. I thought for about two seconds that I could pick up a card for my father-in-law while I was there… I couldn’t even pick up a card without feeling like I was going to burst into tears.
Although nice, none of the commemorative ornaments, Relay for Life luminaries or photographs can take away the ache associated with missing your father.
I’m sad that my dad isn’t a part of what’s happening in my life now, but I’m also grateful that he was able to be there for so much. I was a senior in high school when my dad was diagnosed with stage four, metastatic colon cancer. He was at my high school graduation, he was there when I moved into my dorm, he was at my college graduation, he walked me down the aisle and he was here for me when I got my first job. My dad was there for me in those big moments and his cancer was just along for the ride.
Giving tribute to your dad on Father’s Day is wonderful, but you should treasure him and the role that he plays in your life all year long.
With my mom fighting the fight right now this was particularly hard to read. I have some tiny idea of how you feel. I’m glad you can remember the good things. That’s important.
My dad was a human being and I know he wasn’t perfect, but he was a great dad and a good man. I’m sorry for the tough read and the obstacles your family is facing, but thank you so much for reading.
I can relate to you in so many ways….we have so much in common. I also lost my father to colon cancer about 10 years ago. Not a day goes by that he is not on my mind. I miss him terribly. I also was diagnosed with T1 almost three years ago. I’m sad we have those two things in common but know you are in my prayers and I would say it gets easier but holidays like these and life changing moments always make you miss them even more. Thank you for always sharing your stories because it is so comforting to know someone else has walked in your shoes.
Thank you for reaching out Erin. It is good to know that there are people who experienced what I have and made it through. I am often at peace with my father’s passing, but there are some things that make the pain fresh again.
Oh Rachel this post resonated so much with me. It’s going to be 9 years since my father passed away & Father’s day doesn’t hurt any less. You put it so perfectly that as much as we long to have them in our lives now, we were fortunate to have them when we did. I’ll be thinking of you on Sunday & sending you hugs.
I appreciate your words comfort and honesty, every time you share them. Like I told Erin, I’m mostly at peace, but sometimes. I never expect Father’s Day to be easy, but I do hope to be able to go back into that card section eventually. I’m thankful that we’re celebrating with my father-in-law on Saturday and Sunday will be a “normal Sunday.” Think of you as well this weekend.
I miss my friend. It’s to a FAR better place we go !! Blessed for the time we had !!