My husband helps me be independent

Today is Brad’s birthday. I’m taking a slightly different approach to a birthday blog for him than normal and sharing about something I recently learned, which is: The longer I’m married, the more independent I become.

I discovered something when Brad was gone all last week on a business trip. I realized that between the time we got married and now, I’ve become so much more independent. But it’s not just independence that I’ve developed, it’s confidence, competence and comfort-ence. (Alliteration is my favorite.)

It’s not that Brad makes me have to be independent. I both want and need my husband in my life. I have identified that Brad has been a significant part of my personal development process. Brad, combined with normal progression through adulthood and  increased personal and professional responsibility, has helped me become better at being on my own. Continue reading

What Would You Do Without Me?

Yesterday was nine years since Brad and I started being humans together.

We did what every couple wants to do on their 9th anniversary of couplehood… we went to an oral and maxillofacial surgeon’s office for a consultation, because I have to have my wisdom teeth out… again.

Remember 3 1/2 years ago when I wrote about my totally not wise teeth? They only took out the bottom ones because the top ones didn’t look problematic. Yet.

While at the consultation Brad jokingly asked, “What would you do without me?”

It caused a good laugh, but the real answer to that question is much more serious. Without Brad, I would do nothing. Continue reading

Helping the Men in Our Lives Stay Healthy

No one really likes to go to the doctor. It seems like men as a gender in general are known for avoiding those who wear white coats.

Oscar Insurance put together a great infographic for Men’s Health Week (this week) and apparently June is Men’s Health Month. Most wives probably realize long before walking down the aisle, that part of the role they will play in their partner’s life includes encouraging him to be healthy.  Continue reading

Every Year Can’t Be a Milestone

I sat here looking at a blank page trying to come up with something to say about four years of marriage. And I had nothing, no profound words.

So I turned to Brad with my blogging predicament. His response was, “Well write that. Every year can’t be a milestone. It’s not that we’ve made it to four years, it’s all the things we’ve done in those years.” Continue reading

May you be poor in misfortune, rich in blessings

May is shaping up to be a busy month. Lots of travel, weddings/anniversaries, events and such. But let me catch you up. It’s been quieter around here and I’m not apologizing! I live first and blog later.

I like the month of May and look forward to it every year. May typically marks the beginning of real spring weather in the area and a farewell to snow (generally speaking).

I look forward to this month often because it reminds me of so many milestones, the biggest of which is our wedding anniversary at the end of the month. This year is 4 years, a marginally unremarkable milestone but completely special to us. I laughed a little when I read that the modern 4th anniversary gift is appliances… seeing as we just got a new dishwasher, I think we got it covered!

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