Wedding Weekend Wrap-Up

I hope everyone else had a wonderful weekend! From the looks of my social feeds, most of my friends were in weddings or running marathons… I think a few did both!

Although I did do a lot of running, some of which was done in heels, I was only in a wedding this weekend.

Brad and I took a half day off on Friday and headed across the state to help prepare for mom’s wedding and rehearse. We got the church and reception hall decked out and ran through the wedding before enjoying a relaxed dinner with the rest of the wedding party.

On Saturday morning, my sister and I left our hotel and me our mom at the hair salon for coffee/tea and hairstyles. When finishing up at the reception desk of the salon, I set the hanger I was holding on the counter and didn’t realize there were tealights on the counter and I caught the hanger on fire! It was more funny than dangerous, I quickly put out the hanger and we all had a good laugh about it, but boy was I glad that the reception candles were LED!

Before heading back to our hotel to pick up our men, my sister and I took a little trip down memory lane. Since we used to live in the town where my mom was married, we stopped by a couple of places that held a lot of memories for us, including driving by our old house. It brought back memories of our shared pink bedroom with Disney’s Beauty and the Beast border on the walls and the swing set that my dad built in the backyard.

I love this photo of my mom that I captured in the bridal room.

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Friday Five: Mom Edition

I’d like to wish a happy Mother’s Day weekend to my mom, my other moms and all moms!

1. Happy Mother’s Day to my mom! She’s an amazing woman, smart, funny, strong, courageous…. and the list really does go on. When I was a kid, I though she was the most beautiful woman in the world and I still do!

2. Happy Mother’s Day to my mother-in-law! She is a kind woman who raised two great men, and I’m proud to call one of them my husband and partner in life. Her determination and warm, welcoming attitude toward all are inspiring.

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A Cooking-Themed Bridal Shower

Last summer, I worked with a great group of bridesmaids to throw a pretty large-scale garden tea bridal shower for my good friend Natalie. I loved how the theme of the shower carried through everything, so when my mom said that she’d like to have a small, Pampered Chef bridal shower, my sister and I cooked up an intimate cooking-themed shower for her.

It’s weird to plan a bridal shower for your mother. Let me just put that out there. But a lot of the stuff I’ve encountered related to my mom getting married has been a bit unusual so the only option is to just roll with it.

Since the guest list was manageable, I volunteered my home for it. I printed the invitations at home and included a card with parking instructions and notice that my home is a shoes-free environment, inviting guests to bring slippers or fun fun socks. Asking  people to remove their shoes in my home is a frequently misunderstood policy and occasionally upsets some, the best way of preventing problems with this is to give advanced notice of the policy, by inviting people to bring slippers or fun socks, they could plan accordingly.

One of my mom’s friends thought that the invitations were professionally made! Major compliment appreciated!

Because it was a Pampered Chef shower, most of the hard work was done by the Pampered Chef lady, who is my mom’s friend. She put together a board with my mom’s wishlist and brought items from it for us to look at and learn about. Continue reading

Mother-in-Law Drama

During the three years that Brad and I dated before he proposed to me, I was never asked by anyone if I had problems with his mom. Likewise, Brad was never asked if he and my mom had issues. But after we announced our engagement, we discovered the social norm of mother-in-law speculation.

I don’t know how it got started, but I know that everyone kind of just expects to have issues with mother-in-laws. I think that more often than not the expectation of problems causes problems.

There are people out there who have legitimate conflicts with their in-laws that are over real issues, but I feel like this isn’t the norm. I know more couples who have excellent in-law relationships, even though there are a few bumps in the road (as with any relationship) it overall works out.

It seems like a rite of passage for wifehood to swap MIL stories with her girlfriends. Sure, everyone has a story of that crazy thing she did or said, but most of the time they aren’t the horror stories that are sometimes embellished.

So here’s my challenge in consideration of Mother’s Day this weekend, try to stop perpetuating drama when it comes to in-laws.

My mother-in-law is nothing like my mom… and that’s 100% okay with me. She raised my husband and for that I love her. If my husband and I had moms that were alike, we wouldn’t be the same people that the other fell in love with.

Next time something your significant other’s mom does makes your eye twitch, take a second and a breath and remember that you love their child and the part she played in his or her character.

On another note…

I’d like to wish an early happy Mother’s Day to my own mom who brought me into this world and played a huge part in the woman and wife that I’ve become. I love you mom!

Also, thank you to the various moms with diabetes and moms of children with diabetes who have been sources of information to me these past two years!

 

The other ladies

My mom is my one and only mom. I love her dearly and owe her more thanks than I can give.

I feel that I can’t let all of the Mother’s Day celebrations go by without recognizing  a couple of other ladies in my life, who although not my mothers, deserve credit for being motherly toward me.

Mom K

I’m one of the few lucky ladies who married into a great set of in-laws. Brad’s mom raised two boys and finally has a girl around. She deserves credit first for raising a great son and second for expanding the definition of family.

My in-laws consider my family to be their family which meant we had extra support during the tough times. When I was mysteriously ill and finally made an appointment with the doctor, she’s the one who took me to that appointment and then took me to the hospital… but more on all of that next week.

Her giggles are contagious and she has a way of making the people around her happy.

Aunt P

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