Holding in a Sneeze: My weird week without my husband

It was Friday morning and I’m sitting at my desk with my face screwed up and trying to hold in a sneeze that was brewing. I know you aren’t supposed to hold in your sneezes, it’s not healthy. But I knew, if that sneeze came out it would start my nose bleeding again. I see enough of my own blood on a daily basis, I really didn’t need it to start coming out of my face… again.

It had been a weird week already so a perfect way to cap it off was appearing like I was on the verge of tears because that stupid sneeze was trying to form.

Brad was in Canada for work most of the week so I was on my own. Continue reading

Total Weirdos

The other evening Brad looked at me and said, “Do you know that when I first met you, I thought you were a total weirdo?” He followed that shortly with, “and after all these years, I know I was right.”

“Yeah, well I thought you were weird too,” I shot back.

As our 6th wedding anniversary is this weekend, it’s nice to be open about how weird we think the other person really is. Continue reading

What it’s like to be with someone for 10 years

What do you consider to be a long period of time?

I’ve had this unconscious idea in my head that 10 years is a long time. We tend to measure things in 10s. When you hit that 10 years, you get to use the word “decade.”

Well today, it’s been a decade since Brad told me we were humans and we decided to be humans in a relationship. Ten years.

I remember in high school I had been dating a boy (not Brad) for five months and it seemed like a long time. Everyone thought it was a long time. So perhaps it’s a change in perspective.

As I think on it more and more, 10 years is a significant period of time but really, not all that long. I feel like just yesterday I was musing about five years of marriage, but that was in May… five months ago (exactly).

So, what’s it like to be with someone for 10 years? Continue reading

Weekend Wrap Up: 5th Anniversary Edition

Over the weekend, Brad and I celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary. This year was actually a milestone.

We were unusually home on our anniversary and it was a Saturday. So, we had a nice relaxing day, then went out to a nice dinner at Strip in Avon. Strip is a cool steakhouse in an old barn.

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My husband helps me be independent

Today is Brad’s birthday. I’m taking a slightly different approach to a birthday blog for him than normal and sharing about something I recently learned, which is: The longer I’m married, the more independent I become.

I discovered something when Brad was gone all last week on a business trip. I realized that between the time we got married and now, I’ve become so much more independent. But it’s not just independence that I’ve developed, it’s confidence, competence and comfort-ence. (Alliteration is my favorite.)

It’s not that Brad makes me have to be independent. I both want and need my husband in my life. I have identified that Brad has been a significant part of my personal development process. Brad, combined with normal progression through adulthood and  increased personal and professional responsibility, has helped me become better at being on my own. Continue reading