I Don’t Really Think That’s Feminism

Brad and I were recently having a conversation and something was said in jest that lead me to tell Brad he’d better be careful since he’s married to a feminist. *Gasp* It’s a little dangerous to say that sometimes.

“What makes you call yourself a feminist?” Brad asked me.

My answer included some of this list of things that I believe:

  • Men and women should be equal
  • It shouldn’t be okay for people to catcall me on the street
  • Men and women should get paid the same amount for the same job and women shouldn’t be at a disadvantage in salary negotiations just because of gender
  • I shouldn’t have to check my assertiveness to avoid being seen as “bitchy” when a man would be seen as “confident”
  • Women shouldn’t have to pay more for the female version of products
  • The occupancy of my uterus shouldn’t be up for discussion
  • Women shouldn’t fear that wearing their engagement ring to an interview will make them less likely to be hired (due to either “that ring’s big, she clearly doesn’t need a job” or “she’ll probably get pregnant soon, we don’t want to deal with that”)
  • Rape victims shouldn’t be asked what they were wearing
  • Girls shouldn’t be discouraged from leadership or studying science and math

The list goes on. Gender bias and discrimination is so ingrained in our society that people don’t stop to think about it enough.

“I don’t really think that’s feminism,” Brad said. “That’s just how things should be.”

It’s sad that these views would classify me as feminist, but unfortunately it’s true. Many people think that my list of things I believe is already reality, but it’s not. Women haven’t even had the right to vote for all that long. It’s not until we all become “feminists” that these things will become how things should be.

Don’t worry, I’m not going to quit shaving my legs anytime soon… I’ll just use a men’s razor because it’s cheaper.

InternationalWomensDay-portraitI think it’s perfect that I was born on International Women’s Day and this year’s theme is gender parity. Don’t be made uncomfortable by strong women. Also, don’t be mean, it’s my birthday.

July Reads

In an attempt to better organize my blog and my life… I’ve categorized my July reads!

Personal Growth

10 Ways to Be a Better Person.  Unfortunately this list is not intuitive for a lot of people. #5 on the list (go to funerals) really isn’t fun, but it means so much. People who came to my dad’s funeral for me and not themselves were truly wonderful and showed how much they cared about me.

Millennial Topics

10 Things Every 20-Something Kitchen Needs. I can’t say that every 20-something’s kitchen needs everything on the list, but if you’re putting together a kitchen for the first time on you own, it’s got some good recommendations. Also a good place to start looking for housewarming gift ideas. I also recommend a meat thermometer. It was the best $5ish we ever spent and might keep you from giving yourself food poisoning.

Seek a Mentor, Be a Mentor. I agree completely.

13 Things Successful Millennials Do in Their Spare Time. Even if you aren’t a millennial, making good use of your spare time is a good idea. Continue reading

Friday Five: February Links

1. I have decided to leave my comments on the topic of Miss Manners’ advice to a reader with diabetes with my Facebook post yesterday… and the rest of this paragraph! I think that my passion for spreading awareness of the realities of diabetes made me really upset when I read the advice. Online it’s really easy to let passion override patience when educating people with diabetes. I made a comment on Karen’s post earlier today, with the thought that maybe we think people notice the diabetes stuff more than they actually do. It’s such a large aspect of our lives that how can it not be visible to others? The reality is that if we don’t make a big production out of testing our blood or taking an injection, it’s very easy for that to go unnoticed by strangers (and therefore can’t make them uncomfortable). The bottom line is that I will check my blood sugar whenever I need to, where I am and I won’t apologize for it.


Okay, moving onto some other really great links…

2. 44 Stock Photos That Hope To Change The Way We Look At Women  These photos made me smile. My only comment beyond that is it is unfortunate that the photo of the woman doing squats with the barbell, makes the man in the background look like he’s probably naked. Continue reading