Being asked to be a bridesmaid in someone’s wedding is a testament to the relationship that the couple has with you. I’ve been a bridesmaid, a maid of honor, a bride, a matron of honor and a bride’s matron (seems full circle!) as well as a wedding guest, videographer and photographer’s assistant. I’ve been honored with those roles and I’ve picked up a lot of advice to share with other bridesmaids.
My goofy girls – Joni Chatman Photography
1. Be a team player.
You don’t have to be friends with the other bridal attendants. You don’t even have to like them! But you do have to work with them. You’re on “team bride” together so put aside petty arguments and badmouthing and work with each other. Chances are you’re going to be planning a bridal shower and a bachelorette party together as well as working as a team to help the bride get ready, stay calm and enjoy her wedding day. After that if you’re all friends, great! If not, no problem.
As a former bridesmaid, maid of honor, bride and now matron of honor and guest during Wedding Season 2013, it’s very, very clear to me that the average person is not aware of what is, and isn’t, appropriate behavior surrounding the happiest day of someone’s life. So it’s my pleasure to get on my soap box and share some advice with you, the internet, on how to be a nice wedding guest.
Here are 10 fairly simple things to remember when attending a wedding:
It is never, ever, ever, ever, everappropriate for a woman to wear a white dress to a wedding if she is not the bride, a flower girl or a British bridesmaid. Sure, some clothes have white in them, that’s not a huge deal. A white lace dress? Big, HUGE no no. Pick another color and save the white for church or a graduation or something that isn’t a wedding. Also plan on nixing anything that is “cream” or “off white” from your wedding guest wardrobe. Wearing a white dress is just plain rude. (If you think I sound adamant about this, you’re right. I see this happen over and over again and wonder why girls do it. Maybe they don’t know? So I’m spreading the wediquette.) Continue reading →